#DearDaughter Guest Series

28 February 2018

In celebration of Little A turning 1, I am introducing the first ever Guest series on The Mum Affairs!

Please welcome the #DearDaughter series! Whether you are a parent or even an expectant parent of a daughter then this is for you!

Write an open letter to your daughters and share with the world your bundles of feelings! Is there something you’d like to tell them? Some sort of advice for the future or just how you feel? From time to time, I will also be participating in this series, you can read my first instalment here.

This is an open guest series so there is no deadline at all! But I would love to know if you’re interested!

Once you have written your #DearDaughter letter, please email me: themumaffairs@outlook.com not only with the letter but links to your blog and social media as well. The guest posts will be posted every Wednesday.

I look forward to reading them and I’m sure everyone else does too! 

Dear Daughter: We Made It!

26 February 2018



Dear Daughter, 

I cannot believe that I am actually writing this. You hit such a huge milestone this month, we both did actually and made it to a year!

Happy Birthday, my forever best friend.

As I write this, you are fast asleep by my side and I still cannot believe that you are here and that you are mine. You entered our lives and changed it for the better, we were stuck in the middle of a never ending thunderstorm, lost in the dark clouds until you came and brought out the rainbow and the sun. 

I never thought I’d ever be able to be genuinely be happy again and smile without faking it, but you changed everything, you changed me and I am forever grateful to you for that. 

This past year has flown past it seems like a whirlwind to me now. I didn’t expect it to fly past so quickly. I am not going to lie and say that it was filled with flowers and butterflies because it wasn’t, we struggled a lot, whether it was to do with sleeping or feeding, we struggled. But you know what? None of that matters because it’s all a part of life, without facing any obstacles we don’t find the better in us, we don’t gain strength, we don’t grow.

As you were growing up and capturing your milestones, I was too. I have learnt so much about the world, even about myself just by being with you. It’s as if though you are my teacher and I am your student - I didn’t know one could learn so much from a little human being.

But you’re not really little though, are you?

You may be little in size and age than all of us but you have this attractive big personality. I’m not normally the one to boast but I can loudly boast about you because I am so very proud of the little adventurous lady that you have become. You are always exploring, trying to attempt new things and even though I am proud, it does tire me out but I guess that's your very own unique way in helping me keep fit when I don't do so myself!

Sometimes, I wish you could grow up quickly so we can do this and that together but then again I want the time to slow down because you will only be this tiny for a little while, before I know it you will be all grown up and ready for the world. I love absolutely everything about you, even when you wake a thousand times at night, I love cuddling you because this is all I ever wanted. I hope you feel the same way about me too.

I call you my best friend and I pray that one day you will too, that I'll be your best friend, your confide, your everything. I hope that we have a very special, an untouchable bond just like how it is now. There is so much that I can say, I want to say but don't have the right words. Just know, my dear daughter, that no matter what, I will always love you.

Thank you for being you, thank you for coming into my life and changing it for the better.
Happy Birthday, Princess.
3 Little Buttons
Lucy At Home

5 Tips For a Healthier Happier You

16 February 2018

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Whenever we read or hear about ‘healthy living’ we instantly think about food and exercise. However, there are also other equations to this puzzle which are being ignored ever wondered what they could be? Well, look no further because here are my 5 tips to a healthier happier you!

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Routine 

I know this may not be the thing for everyone and many do like to just go with the flow but I am all about routine! When you have a busy schedule which for me involves things like household chores, work, cooking, blogging and of course taking care of a baby - a routine is a life saver! I am lucky that Little A started a routine herself quite early on in her little life, so her times to eat and sleep are nearly always the same, I say nearly because there really cannot be a guarantee with a baby.

So I form my routine around her routine, the best way to get this done is to plan ahead, have in mind what you want to the next day and in what order, I attempt to get the little things done and over with first. It really doesn’t matter if you haven’t been able to complete all of your tasks for the day, at least you tried. Having a routine means you are spending less time stressing over what needs to be done and more time doing!

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Walk 

I know, I know that I said I will not be talking about exercise and I’m still not going to! Walking is not just part of exercise but also for your mind too. Most of the time, we find ourselves going out for a walk because we have to run an errand. How about taking some minutes out of the day or your weekend if not possible during the week to just go for a walk for yourself?

Even if it’s just in your garden. Take in the beauty of nature, listen to the birds chirping away or in reality the car horns and cat fights in a neighbours garden. The purpose of this is just to get you outside to relax rather than always rushing around.

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De Clutter Your Mind!

 We are always hearing and reading about tips on decluttering our homes, workstations and wardrobes but what about our minds? Our mind is a very important tool, without it we are nothing! Have you ever thought about what you are hoarding up there?

 Switch your mind off from the world, immerse yourself in an activity that doesn’t force you to think about ‘what and why happened’ this can be by reading a book, cleaning, watching your favourite movie or tv show, whatever keeps your mind occupied.

You could even go a step further and write a list of thoughts that encapsulate your mind and then tear that paper up and put it in the bin!

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 Sleep

 Ever since becoming a parent, I have come to know the importance of sleep. I have always been an early riser as I find that I get so much more done because of the increased time I have at hand. However, before Parenthood, I use to go to bed past 11pm but now I have found myself going to sleep sometimes 8 or 9pm, 10 at the very latest.

 My reasons are that even if I want a lie in tomorrow, I can’t have that and of course the numerous amount of awakenings at night, have to prepare myself for that! But predominantly, the earlier you will go to sleep, the more happier and less groggy you will be in the morning. It’s very tempting after a long hard day to just put on Netflix and just binge watch past midnight but hey, nighttime is for sleep for a reason! An hour or two before bed, do the most difficult thing ever (I’m still working on it but getting there, s-l-o-w-l-y) switch everything off, listen to some relaxing music, practice some self care and just wind down, prepare your body and mind for sleep.

I actually learnt this from Little A whilst figuring out her bedtime routine. It’s very important for babies to wind down at least an hour or so before bed and stay away from blue light. It’s also important for the routine to be same and consistent to help babies sleep better. There must be some logic behind this so why not apply to it adults? I’m sure we would all get some good rest too.

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Be Yourself 

 In this day and age where there is a great impact of social media, many are finding it difficult to just be themselves. There is some sort of a pressure that people, day to day, are putting on themselves - it’s all about looking, dressing and even acting a certain way and amongst all of this we are losing our own selves. This is one of the most unhealthiest things we can do to ourselves and I’d sadly say that you become your own worst enemy when you begin to lose yourself in the crowd.

There is one thing that you should be reminding yourself, ‘it’s all for show’ we don’t know what goes on behind the scenes, behind the perfect picture we drool over on Instagram. Sometimes people end up thinking that’s the way it always is, no it’s not! And it’s not just about the impact of social media, in our own everyday lives we are constantly thinking about what others think, how about what you think? Are you comfortable? That’s all that matters! Stop trying to be who you are not and just be the beautiful person you already are!

 LOVE YOURSELF FIRST! 
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 I hope you found these tips useful, please do share your own tips as well as your thoughts below!
Lucy At Home

The Mummy Tag

12 February 2018




I saw this tag on the lovely Jasmin’s blog and since she has tagged all the mothers out there, I thought why not give it a go!

How old were you when you had your first child?
I was 22 years old when I found out I was pregnant and just shy of 23 when I gave birth.

What was the hardest thing about being pregnant for 9 months?
Well, I have never been pregnant for 9 months! First pregnancy lasted 32 weeks and the second pregnancy, we made it to 36 weeks. But considering the hardest thing.. there are many for example not being able to do day to day chores or not being able to sleep but what tops all of this is the emotional effect that it has, having the constant feeling of something going wrong is definitely the most difficult part of being pregnant especially in a Rainbow pregnancy.

Can you think of any good things you enjoyed during those 9 months?
Obviously when your little one first kicks you and you begin to bond. Also figuring out what got the babies excited and moving, going baby shopping - literally nearly everything and of course being the centre of attention!


In your opinion, were all the things you heard about childbirth accurate or way off?

This is a difficult one to answer because both experiences of child birth were worlds apart. During my first pregnancy, I had heard horror stories of labour and giving birth and my experience was a breeze, literally! During my second pregnancy, I was more positive about labour and the opposite happened - so to answer the question, way off both times.

Would you have handled child birth differently if you could re do it?
I would not give birth on my back, apparently that is most difficult position and yet is the most common! Or with the second birth, I would opt for a c section. Yes, I understand that a c section is not a joke, it is major surgery but if I did have a c section with Little A, I guess I wouldn’t have ended up disabled for over a month - full birth story here.

What would be your advice for someone who is about to have a baby?
Just focus on yourself and your baby and don’t read into birth stories much, yes it’s good to be ‘prepared’ but everyone’s labour and delivery is different, child birth is unpredictable, just keep your mind on the end goal.

What has been the hardest thing since becoming a Mum?

Putting yourself second but this is hard only when you are so sick and would be prefer to be bed ridden. Instead, I’d be happily dancing around the kitchen and singing keeping Little A entertained! Or not being able to have much sleep, hardly any sleep and still be required to function fully. Also when you can’t figure out why your baby is crying.

What has been the most rewarding thing about being a Mum?

Watching Little A grow and become a little lady with a big personality. I sometimes sit back and just stare at her and think, was she really inside me?

What was the most surprising thing you discovered about being a Mum?
Mothers intuition! I realised this on the very first day - you can recognise your baby’s cry when you’re not even in the room. On Little A’s first day at NICU, she was in a room full of little babies and I was told to come back at 9pm to feed her, I was resting in the family room and at around 8:30pm I heard Little A cry, it could have been any one of those babies crying but I was sure it was her and I sped my way there and I was right!


What is the best memory you have involving your child?
There are absolutely countless of wonderful memories but I guess nothing beats the memory of when you have finally given birth and the doctor holds your slimy, covered in blood crying baby up for you to see for the first time and then on your chest.

What was the most exciting milestone?

All milestones are exciting but one particular milestone we both hit together recently is weaning her from the bottles and just breastfeeding her. We proved everyone wrong, all the comments that combined fed babies end up rejecting mother’s milk, that I can’t ‘just’ breastfeed her, well I am, despite the rubbish support in the beginning that lead to combine feeding in the first place - full story here.

What is the worst thing your child has done?
My mind instantly ran off to when Little A was around 4 months old and whilst feeding her a bottle, I felt something run down my legs - what was it? A very explosive poop, that Little A decided to bathe me, our furniture and carpet in!

What habit do you wish your child didn’t have?

She doesn’t have any bad habits.

What habit of theirs are you most proud of?

That she’s always trying to explore and master new skills even those that she shouldn’t be - shows us that she’s quite adventurous! Although, this can become very tiring for me!

Do you share any similarities with your child (both physical and personality)?
When she was a newborn she use to sleep like me, even in the womb as seen in scans and she does look like me. Personality wise, she reminds me of my teenage years.. I know that’s a very weird comparison but it’s true.

Where would you like your child to be in 10 years?

At school of course!

What is something that having a child has taught you?

Patience! Just imagine not being able to communicate or understand someone. You really have to exercise patience at every step of the way when you have a child.

Did you imagine you would become a Mum at the age you did? 
I always said that I’d like 2 kids by the time I am 24 and that’s what has happened.

Describe your child in one sentence?
The most wonderful little being and my best friend. 

How have you changed as a person since becoming a Mum?

In so many different ways that I can’t put into words. I am completely different, I am more patient and strong minded yet can get unbelievably anxious at times - I haven’t had anxiety before but now I do whenever it’s something to do with Little’s A safety or literally anything to do with her but I guess that is part and parcel of parenting! 

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Hope you enjoyed reading my answers, go ahead and do the mummy tag too! 
Thanks for stopping by!

Rhyming with Wine

The Versatile Blogger Award

9 February 2018

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Well I really was not expecting this! In just a month being nominated for my second blogging award! A great big thank you to the lovely Jemma for nominating me for The Versatile Blogger Award! Be sure to check out Jemma’s blog and her YouTube channel - go and subscribe now!

 So what’s the Versatile Blogger Award all about?

 You need to write 7 interesting facts about yourself and then nominate 15 other bloggers!

 So without further ado, what’s so interesting about me?

 1. I got run over by a car at 9 years old, Saturday May 11th 2002 at 5pm to be exact and I didn’t break any bones!

2. In my early teens I was obsessed with writing fanfictions which included Twilight, Spooks and yes The Jonas Brothers (runs away!).

 3. My actual inspiration to start a parenting blog are vloggers on YouTube - I thought to myself ‘I can do this too!’ But not behind the camera but from behind my keyboard instead!

4. I am a Law graduate with a Masters in Law as well and hope to achieve a PhD in Law someday too.

5. The Mum Affairs isn’t my first blog, I started one a couple of years ago about law and politics, it didn’t have much success because I wasn’t on any social media, I had no idea that was a must!

 6. What feels like many years ago, I started writing a novel, had written around 15 chapters and it all got lost and I still haven’t gotten over it. Do I plan on going back to it? I don’t know. I’m not that same person anymore who wrote those words so I guess trying to rewrite and continuing it wouldn’t do it any justice.

 7. I use to be really shy at school, not when approaching or talking to peers but I was that girl who would want to participate in class discussions or answer a question but either I’d think a million times over before raising my hand or not say anything at all - thankfully as the years went by, I got over this  and became a bit  more vocal during lessons.

 I now nominate: 

Malorie from Maloreads
Stephanie Vivienne 
Daddy Poppins 
Rachel from Ordinary Hopes  
Dawn from Rhyming with Wine
 Jess from Jess in Wonderland
Lena Dee
Another Little Birdie
Maud from My Passion Projects
Emily from Babies and Beauty
Jasmin from The Little Things With Jassy
 Fran from Whinge Whinge Wine
Natalie from Mum in Brum
Bethany from Mama Finds Her Way
Grianne Kelly from Mother Almost Never Knows Best

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Let’s have some fun and when you leave your thoughts below write at least one interesting fact about yourself too!
Thanks for stopping by!
Mummies Waiting

The Fear of Dressing Your Own Baby

5 February 2018



Being a parent, you always find yourself worrying about one thing or another and I have been no different. I don’t know if this is because Little A’s my Rainbow baby which I do think plays a huge role in how I feel about everything that has to do with her but whatever it is I am always anxious about everything being right for her.

One of the most concerning thoughts I had was nighttime, whether or not she’d be too cold or too hot and after doing some research I realised we needed a room thermometer. A room thermometer is just one of the most important essentials that a parent has to buy when it comes to baby shopping.

Why?

Babies cannot regulate their own body temperature just like we can do as adults. Therefore, it is our responsibility to make sure our little ones are dressed accordingly at night time – a common mistake that many parents make is over dressing babies at night worrying that baby will get cold, I use to worry too but until I came to learn that its better for the baby to be cold rather than hot, as overheating can have severe consequences. 

There are now numerous charts available online that explain how to dress your baby at what temperature and this is where the Groegg comes in.




I  had many people suggest to me that I could just simply get a normal thermometer but normal thermometers can be difficult to read in the dark and when you’re handling a baby at night (most likely in a very sleep deprived state) you just don't want to fiddle around for the light or the torch on your phone in case you may end up waking your precious little one who took forever to go to sleep.
One of the best features of the Groegg is that it changes colours according to the temperature range. At the back of the Groegg there is a short guideline which explains what is too cold, recommended, warm and too warm for your baby.



In the beginning, I was shocked to realise that what I might find cold at night was actually just the perfect temperature for Little A, being paranoid (as you are with everything that has to do with your baby) I would regularly feel Little A tummy, chest and back of her neck to see if she was too cold or too hot but she has always been just right as I have dressed her according to the room temperature. Yes, every baby is different but you soon realise what is right for your baby.

Things to bear in mind, never put the thermometer near a window, door or radiator as that is bound to effect the temperature it shows. I had read mixed reviews online for the Groegg and I must admit I did think a thousand times over before purchasing but now nearly a year on, I have to say that it is by far my best purchase – if we are staying the night elsewhere, it comes with!

Another great feature is that it has proven to be a great night light, I can clearly see Little A  without having to switch on any other lights!

I bought the Groegg thermometer from Tesco Direct for £15 in January 2017 (price may have changed and will differ depending from where you buy).


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Have you had any worries about dressing your baby at night? How did you resolve them?

Disclaimer: This is NOT a sponsored post, I chose to do this review out of my own preference just to share my experience.

Thank you for stopping by!

Rhyming with Wine

January Favourites

2 February 2018



It has now been a month since I joined the blogging community and what an amazing month it has been! I have decided to do monthly favourites post of my 10 favourite posts that I read in the month. However, this wasn't as easy as it looks because everything that I read deserves to be spoken about so shortlisting to just 10 posts has given me a right headache! But here goes..

I will choosing 5 parenting posts and 5 lifestyle to give it a good balance!

You will find the links to the post in the titles as well as the bloggers twitter in the their name.

So in no particular order.


This is a post that really touched my heart and it would not be cheesy to say my soul too. Reading Rachel's words it was as if though, I was reliving my first pregnancy all over again. Even though Rachel and I had different outcomes, I absolutely adored the way she chose to tell her story. Rachel speaks about being an oblivious mum to be who received a shocking news that no parent wants to hear about their precious little one. She beautifully portrayed her journey from the beginning till now and what's so amazing is how she has made something what most people would think as a negativity into something so positive and inspirational.




This is a post that really made me question myself and my parenting style. Lucy talks about how we should actually be using positive words instead of negatives such as 'no' and 'don't' and there's a really interesting reason why! I now have a cheeky 11 month old who surprisingly understands the meaning of no and gets into a lot of mischief so I have been saying no to her a lot. But am I actually encouraging her to the exact thing that I don't want her to do? It's something to think about! Whether or not you are a parent and regardless of what stage you are at in your life, this is a must read as it applies to everyone not just parents.




Alice, I believe, is the voice of a thousand and more mothers and I am actually one of them. It takes a lot of courage to speak up when we have been mistreated and have not received the right support and this is what happened when Alice had her beautiful boy. Alice courageously talks about her breastfeeding journey and why is it that she is so upset and angry and she has most certainly every right to be. This is not only a must read because it addresses issues that most do not want to talk about but because it raises questions about health professionals and the way they are supposed to carry out their duties.



Since becoming a parent I have always wondered how different the perception of parenting is when you are not a parent yourself. You never truly know until you find yourself in the thick of it, one of the reasons being is you are always given the different side to it, people only portray the sunny side. Daddy Poppins has fabulously written a piece which is the voice of many shocked and new parents, if you want a good read as well as a laugh don't forget to give this a read!



When I reached the end of this post, the only word that came out of my mouth was WOW - I was honestly lost for words and had no idea what to write in Lucy's comments section and I think you would react the same if you read this. It is true to its title and I would say it is the ultimate Declaration of Motherhood. Just through this one post, Lucy tackles so many dilemmas, controversies, questions, theories and puts them all to rest by just saying that she is a mother too. Regardless of our choices as mothers, we are all the same, we are all one.



I went back to work last month and even though only part time, I began to wonder how on earth would I manage to keep up with blogging, work as well as a baby. I then came across Leah's post about how it is like when blogging is your hobby and passion and you have a full time job as well. She depicts the picture very well that it isn't always a perfect balance. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices and difficult decisions that you don't want too. Give this a read to find out what really goes on behind the scenes.



Fran's post was where I had first heard about the #SmearForSmear campaign. Many women put off having a cervical screening for number of reasons and Fran highlights why is it so important to get checked regularly and shares her own story. It is only a matter of minutes that could potentially save your life, it was this post that urged me to make that phone call to the GP that I myself was putting off. I definitely believe you should have a read and share with everyone to raise awareness even if cervical cancer awareness week has ended we should not being taking a back seat.




As a new blogger I am always on the look for reading posts that could help expand my knowledge regarding the blogging community and I am so glad that I came across this post. April sums it all up so perfectly for us! Blogging is a very big world and in the beginning you do feel like a small teeny tiny fish in the big sea but with these tips, tricks and really good advice you can make a big difference in getting yourself and your blog known. This is not only a must read for new bloggers but I believe for all bloggers as there's no harm in following this advice at any stage of your blogging life.



This is one of those posts that really do take your breath away! Not only with her words does Peta mesmerise you but with her beautiful photography too! Peta transforms us into another world where you are your number one priority. I absolutely loved her analogy of butterflies and how it is now our time to spread our wings and fly, bringing out the beautiful in us.
She also has a freebie for you all!



This is one of them posts that is not only very honest but a reflection, I believe, how we all at some point in our lives feel. Even if we hate to admit it we do come across toxic people who are not good for us, sometimes we are dragged and pushed and we don't do anything about it but sometimes it comes to a point when we just have put our hands up and say enough is enough. Jordanne bravely shares her experience and speaks about what changes she will be making to not let the old make home with the new.
Go and have a read and encourage yourselves to do the same!

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