The Mummy Tag

12 February 2018

I saw this tag on the lovely Jasmin’s blog and since she has tagged all the mothers out there, I thought why not give it a go!

How old were you when you had your first child?
I was 22 years old when I found out I was pregnant and just shy of 23 when I gave birth.

What was the hardest thing about being pregnant for 9 months?
Well, I have never been pregnant for 9 months! First pregnancy lasted 32 weeks and the second pregnancy, we made it to 36 weeks. But considering the hardest thing.. there are many for example not being able to do day to day chores or not being able to sleep but what tops all of this is the emotional effect that it has, having the constant feeling of something going wrong is definitely the most difficult part of being pregnant especially in a Rainbow pregnancy.

Can you think of any good things you enjoyed during those 9 months?
Obviously when your little one first kicks you and you begin to bond. Also figuring out what got the babies excited and moving, going baby shopping - literally nearly everything and of course being the centre of attention!

In your opinion, were all the things you heard about childbirth accurate or way off?

This is a difficult one to answer because both experiences of child birth were worlds apart. During my first pregnancy, I had heard horror stories of labour and giving birth and my experience was a breeze, literally! During my second pregnancy, I was more positive about labour and the opposite happened - so to answer the question, way off both times.

Would you have handled child birth differently if you could re do it?
I would not give birth on my back, apparently that is most difficult position and yet is the most common! Or with the second birth, I would opt for a c section. Yes, I understand that a c section is not a joke, it is major surgery but if I did have a c section with Little A, I guess I wouldn’t have ended up disabled for over a month - full birth story here.

What would be your advice for someone who is about to have a baby?
Just focus on yourself and your baby and don’t read into birth stories much, yes it’s good to be ‘prepared’ but everyone’s labour and delivery is different, child birth is unpredictable, just keep your mind on the end goal.

What has been the hardest thing since becoming a Mum?

Putting yourself second but this is hard only when you are so sick and would be prefer to be bed ridden. Instead, I’d be happily dancing around the kitchen and singing keeping Little A entertained! Or not being able to have much sleep, hardly any sleep and still be required to function fully. Also when you can’t figure out why your baby is crying.

What has been the most rewarding thing about being a Mum?

Watching Little A grow and become a little lady with a big personality. I sometimes sit back and just stare at her and think, was she really inside me?

What was the most surprising thing you discovered about being a Mum?
Mothers intuition! I realised this on the very first day - you can recognise your baby’s cry when you’re not even in the room. On Little A’s first day at NICU, she was in a room full of little babies and I was told to come back at 9pm to feed her, I was resting in the family room and at around 8:30pm I heard Little A cry, it could have been any one of those babies crying but I was sure it was her and I sped my way there and I was right!

What is the best memory you have involving your child?
There are absolutely countless of wonderful memories but I guess nothing beats the memory of when you have finally given birth and the doctor holds your slimy, covered in blood crying baby up for you to see for the first time and then on your chest.

What was the most exciting milestone?

All milestones are exciting but one particular milestone we both hit together recently is weaning her from the bottles and just breastfeeding her. We proved everyone wrong, all the comments that combined fed babies end up rejecting mother’s milk, that I can’t ‘just’ breastfeed her, well I am, despite the rubbish support in the beginning that lead to combine feeding in the first place - full story here.

What is the worst thing your child has done?
My mind instantly ran off to when Little A was around 4 months old and whilst feeding her a bottle, I felt something run down my legs - what was it? A very explosive poop, that Little A decided to bathe me, our furniture and carpet in!

What habit do you wish your child didn’t have?

She doesn’t have any bad habits.

What habit of theirs are you most proud of?

That she’s always trying to explore and master new skills even those that she shouldn’t be - shows us that she’s quite adventurous! Although, this can become very tiring for me!

Do you share any similarities with your child (both physical and personality)?
When she was a newborn she use to sleep like me, even in the womb as seen in scans and she does look like me. Personality wise, she reminds me of my teenage years.. I know that’s a very weird comparison but it’s true.

Where would you like your child to be in 10 years?

At school of course!

What is something that having a child has taught you?

Patience! Just imagine not being able to communicate or understand someone. You really have to exercise patience at every step of the way when you have a child.

Did you imagine you would become a Mum at the age you did? 
I always said that I’d like 2 kids by the time I am 24 and that’s what has happened.

Describe your child in one sentence?
The most wonderful little being and my best friend. 

How have you changed as a person since becoming a Mum?

In so many different ways that I can’t put into words. I am completely different, I am more patient and strong minded yet can get unbelievably anxious at times - I haven’t had anxiety before but now I do whenever it’s something to do with Little’s A safety or literally anything to do with her but I guess that is part and parcel of parenting! 


Hope you enjoyed reading my answers, go ahead and do the mummy tag too! 
Thanks for stopping by!

Rhyming with Wine


  1. This is great. :) I've saved this so I can do the tag too. Thank you

    1. I’d love to read it! Thanks for coming over x

  2. This is a lovely post - I can tell how much you love your children from reading this. Thanks for linking up to #DreamTeam

  3. Lovely post Soffy! I plan on writing a post about motherhood too.
    I have a son, he'll be 2 next April ♡ My little man ♡
    Pregnancy was awful but my labour was amazing. It's a great memory.

    1. Can’t wait for your motherhood posts :) thanks for stopping by x

  4. What a great tag! Maybe in a few years I'll be filling in something like this! What's a rainbow pregnancy?

    1. A rainbow pregnancy is a pregnancy after a loss of a baby. Thanks for stopping by x

  5. This was so lovely to read. I nearly cheered when I read your comment about not giving birth on your back. I was hooked up to so many machines with my first I wasn't really able to move but I so fiercely wanted to get off my back ad you're right - it is the hardest and most painful position. I was able to move about with my second and ended up on all fours which was so much more comfortable (if that's possible haha). Yay to the breastfeeding win! Thanks for linking to #DreamTeam Soffy x

    1. I just don’t understand why we’re not educated on this more. Everyone just assumes that you give birth on your back! Thanks for stopping by x

  6. Ahhh what a fab tag. I hadn't realised that there was a mummy tag version of this. I love your answers and agree that motherhood can make you a much stronger and patient person. It's surprising how it sort of creeps over you and before you know it, you can do pretty much most things with no sleep, balancing baby in one hand and everything else in the other. Thanks so much for joining us for the #Dreamteam x

    1. Yeah it’s a miracle how parents manage truly! I never use to understand but now I do now that I am in the thick of it all. Thanks for stopping by x

  7. Patience!! Definitely with you on that one!! Some lovely insights into a lovely mummy here :) x

    1. Patience literally becomes your best friend no doubt! Aw that’s so sweet! Thanks for stopping by x


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