Little A's 18th Month Update

27 August 2018



I’m super surprised and shocked to be writing this update because it’s hard to comprehend that I am actually the mother of an 18 month old toddler! How on earth did that happen?

So much has happened since the previous update, three months ago, that I’m so excited to share with you all.

Teething

I think we’ve been let off quite well in the past three months, since the previous update where tooth number 7 was emerging, we’ve only just had one more tooth join the family. However, with that being said, I really do think we have molars on the way because she is in quite a discomfort and the way she’s been chewing her hands but still no actual emergence as of yet.

Food

She’s loving her food, whatever I or her Nanny makes her, in addition we have introduced some Organix products for times she outright refuses to eat the snacks I’ve made her or for when we’re out and about.

Breastfeeding

Still going strong here although there were two days in a row when she completely refused her bedtime feed but we are back to normal except, no more night feeds! Can you believe it? Because I can’t! We haven’t gotten ridden of them completely, if she becomes incredibly inconsolable then I just give in but let’s just say for the past week or so.

I also thought that with her eating more solids in the day and growing up, she wouldn’t be much interested in feeding from me anymore but it’s far from that! As soon as she comes home, she runs over to me and moans and if I don’t ‘understand’ pulls my top down and makes it obvious she wants a feed, I have to be very careful now when in company of others..

Sleep

I’m kind of having a cheeky little laugh with myself right now..

The heatwave created a drastic change in our routine, Little A outright has been refusing to go in her cot at bedtime and I blame the stuffy heat. So for the past 3 or so weeks she’s had it her way and has been sleeping with me!

But you know what? I’ve really been enjoying her cuddles and she’s actually sleeping so much better which means I’ve been sleeping better and have been less of a zombie at work. So after nearly 18 months of no sleep, I welcome this. Although, I did one night put her in the cot but she was back in my bed by 11pm! I think if we persevere again as the weather is so much better now she’ll be back to normal ways but I think I’ve spoilt myself really rather than her.

Milestones

She’s hit so many milestones that I wouldn’t be able to stop writing if I listed them all. First and foremost, we have a walker, she took her first independent steps on 7th July and just a week after began walking unaided and ever since then she has become so confident I can’t really believe my eyes. She is so fast that there is no doubt she’ll be properly running soon.

Secondly, she is such a speaker. I have mentioned in previous updates which words she can say but it’s so much more than that. She can speak both English and Urdu words it amazes me! One of my favourite things that she says is ‘thank you’ which leads me onto her third milestone.

Her sense of understanding has really come through, from a baby who didn’t understand what you said to a toddler who can now understand and follow simple instructions.

She’s always heard us say thank you when receiving something and now she’s doing the same, I find it really cute whenever she gives me something she says thank you as well!

As for instructions, she can now understand and act upon things like:

‘Give it to me please’
‘Put that over there please’
‘Please sit down’
‘Go and give this to daddy/mummy’
‘Come here please,’

She also understands when you tell her to clap her hands she will. When you ask her what the lion does, she roars, when you ask her where her ‘beautiful nose’ is (have to say beautiful) she scrunches up her nose and takes her tongue out when you ask her where it is!

She also loves helping with everyday things, my Mum tells me she waits for my brother to finish his breakfast, literally stands there putting the pressure on him to finish quickly so she can take the plate to the kitchen!

She’s also learnt to count to five now!

Personality/favourites

Like I’ve always mentioned she’s a little lady with a big personality and that is still very true. I am in absolute awe with her, how she’s growing and developing it is just so surreal to see.

She finally doesn’t complain when I put something on her head, actually goes to the mirror to admire herself and is already obsessed with carrying bags!

She’s very welcoming and loves being around people but is wary when strangers are about which is good.

Her utmost favourite thing other than books is actually playing football! Whether it’s a normal sized football or a small toddler one, she loves a good kick about.

She does get upset and angry and really does know how to fight her corner when she doesn’t get what she’s not allowed. But what’s really touched me so much about her was only just this past Saturday..

We were at our regular playgroup where she’s always been around children the same age or a little older than her. Along came an adorable 3 month old who was in her father’s arms - what did Little A start to do? Play peek-a-boo with the baby and kept making her smile and was just so gentle that it made me so emotional!

She has never been around a small baby and to see her react like that was just something else altogether.

I’m so proud of my little best friend and now I better stop writing before the tears start coming.


A Bittersweet Eid

24 August 2018

It’s Eid again! 

‘Wasn’t that like just two months ago?’ I hear you say, yes it was.

One of the main difference in the way we celebrate this Eid compared to the one after Ramadan is that for that Eid you are given money as a treat but for this Eid it’s actual presents - which I very much prefer! 

However, this Eid is also different to the previous one (read about it here) because this particular Eid is called Eid al-Adha, it comes as millions of people from all corners of the world get together for Hajj - the pilgrimage that happens once a year.

During the Hajj, the pilgrims follow in the footsteps of Prophet Abraham and his wife Hajar. 

It’s an Eid of sacrifices and Muslims from all over the world sacrifice an animal in order to commemorate the story of the promise that Prophet Abraham had made to God when he was put to the test whether he’d sacrifice his son Ismail for God and when he was about to fulfill his promise God replaced Ismail with a lamb.

The meat is divided into three parts - one part for you and your family, one part for your friends and another part for the poor and needy. However, here in the U.K. me and my family give to a specific charity that carry out the sacrifices for us in different parts of the world and feed it to those who actually need it the most, that might be from Asia to as far as Africa, wherever.

To get the kids involved in the meaning of sacrifice, we ask them to think about something they’d like to sacrifice this year, that could be a bad habit they have or something as simple as sacrificing chocolate!

So what is my sacrifice? My sacrifice this year is impatience. Although being a parent has taught me to being patient and I am but I’d like to extend that to other aspects of my life as well. It’ll be interesting to reflect on this next year and see how it is actually effected me and my life.

To be honest this Eid was actually bittersweet for us as it was the first without my mother-in-law (passed away in June) so we did have to put on brave faces for the kids as it’s truly at times like these when you miss the loved ones the very most.



But I’m certain she was watching over us from Heaven and smiling

Day in the Life of a Working Mum

20 August 2018

I thought it’d be interesting to note down how my typical daily routine is on a weekday. Ever since starting work, we’ve had to make a few adjustments to our daily routine of course to make it successfully work and so far so good.

6 to 6:30am 
I get up and if Little A is awake at that time, I breastfeed her first (that keeps her settled till she reaches my Mum’s and has her breakfast there) then the husband takes her to the lounge leaving me to start getting ready for the day.

6:30 to 7am
Whilst the husband gets ready for work himself after finishing his breakfast, I use this time to get Little A changed and ready for the day. This can sometimes be straightforward or can be a challenge, depending on her mood as she loves running around when half dressed, cute to watch but doesn’t feel as cute when you don’t really have time on your hands!

Then we play a little and might have a read of a story if time permits. 

7am

On a good day, my husband aims to leave at this time with Little A to drop her off at my Mum’s. Little A has been accustomed to this now and brings her jacket and shoes to me as she knows that she’s going outside. Then she walks over to the pram and waits for me to buckle her in (this is on a ‘good’ day, we do have days where she just refuses to go in the pram at all) 
Whenever there is a day that I have to be the one to drop off Little A to my Mum’s (which is rare) I don’t have breakfast and leave a little earlier with her so I can have breakfast at my Mum’s as need to catch the earlier bus.

7 to 7:45am 
During this time, I begin making my breakfast and whilst the toast is getting toasted and the tea is brewing, I start cleaning the kitchen as much as possible.

Once breakfast is made, I watch a bit of breakfast telly, this can sometimes actually be cBeBies as I do tend to forget to change the channel quite often! 

After breakfast, it’s time to wash the dishes, tidy up Little A’s toys and books that she may have taken out in the morning. I then give the worktops a clean, the floors a good brushing and start to get ready to leave home by doing the final checks i.e windows shut, cooker off and checking if I’ve got all of my essentials.

I try my best to leave the home nice and clean in the morning because there’s nothing worse than coming home from a long day at work to a tip and then having to clear up in a sorry tired state!

7:45-7:55

I use this time to check my social media, catch up on insta stories and comments that I may have missed.


8am

Off on the bus I get, I usually use my bus journey to work to brainstorm any blog ideas that I may have cooking in my mind on my phone and catch up on any blogposts I may have missed from other bloggers.

8:35
Depending on the traffic this is usually the time I reach my final bus stop and work is only a short walk away. On the way to work I take a sneak peak in Sainsbury’s and then I make my way to work.

On reaching work, I say my hellos, put my lunch in the fridge and sit down to work whilst catching up with my fellow colleagues.

1-1:30pm

This is the time I prefer to take my lunch although I do sometimes end up taking lunch earlier if feeling hungry.

5pm - hometime!

On my way to my bus stop, I always phone my Mum to see how Little A’s day has been. I use to call at lunchtime but now I don’t as that’s when she’s napping. 

6pm

Finally home, I freshen up, shower - these days, always grabbing an ice cream from the freezer to help cool myself down. If cooking needs to be done then I get on with that, as well as Little A’s lunch for the next day. Sometimes I do them sometimes my Mum. 

I try to have my dinner before Little A gets home as sometimes in the process of getting her ready for bed, I end up falling asleep myself!

7pm

Little A reaches Home and I get her ready for a bath, then we play about, breastfeed her, have story time and attempt getting her to sleep. 

8pm

By this time, all being well, Little A is asleep. So, then I get our clothes ready for the next day. Although, I do admit, I do have lazy days and leave everything till the morning and then regret being lazy! 

After getting everything organised for the next day, I might watch a bit of telly or most likely laze around in bed on my phone, catching up on my favourite vloggers or write a blog post if I’m feeling up to it.

10pm

Time to close my eyes and hope we have a peaceful night!

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So that’s a wrap!
I tried to describe what a typical day is for me now that I’m at work. Would you be interested in a weekend edition of a day in the life? 


Weaning into Toddlerhood with *Organix

15 August 2018




Weaning is that stage of your child’s life that can be nerve wracking yet exciting at the same time. I began weaning Little A on solid foods when she turned 6 months old. 

Since then she’s always had home cooked food and snacks until recently I found myself behind in the snack category not only due to being back at work full time but because sometimes she’d just refuse them straight out especially when we’re out and about, thankfully she’s still a fan of my cooking although you can just never predict what’s coming next..

Especially now that Toddlerhood means lots of exciting adventures but it also means that our little ones are using a lot of energy so just three meals a day are not enough

Since the beginning, I have always been wary of baby food products since some of the snacks available on the market shockingly contain more salt and sugar than the adult version of it.

Luckily, my eyes landed on Organix Goodies, I was instantly attracted towards the name Organix and did my research. Organix abide by the ‘no junk promise’ and they certainly have kept their promise.

Organix are so confident in keeping to their promise that they began a nationwide campaign earlier on in the year teaming up with parents to go to the supermarket and look at ingredients of baby food products and unveil the junk that’s hidden in some finger foods and toddler snacks. 




When they sent Little A Organix Lentil Cheesy Hoops, to test out, I was surprised to see that they were made from over 65% of lentils and only contained naturally occurring sugars and salts.

We were so impressed that we went on an Organix shopping trip and stocked up on all different kind of snacks, even some biscuits that are suitable for 10 months +. I wish I had paid more attention much earlier on and we would’ve been enjoying these for longer but better late than never, eh?




I do have a confession to make though, I’ve been enjoying these for myself as well because they are tasty. I even think that if you’re an adult on a diet, these would be perfect as you’ll be enjoying a treat that doesn’t contain any of the naughty ingredients - something for Organix to think about for future marketing, maybe?

Nevertheless, even if I do feel like being naughty myself and having a chocolate bar or a packet of crisps, I don’t have to worry about Little A asking for what I’m having or her ending up in tears as she’s not allowed mummy’s snacks because she can now have the Organix healthier versions.

It’s just made me feel at ease that I have Organix as a back up now and I don’t have to worry about any nasties making their way into my little girl’s tummy. 


Some of our super hit purchases:
*I was sent the Organix lentil cheesy hoops to test out in exchange for my honest opinion. Thoughts and opinions expressed are 100% my own.

STOP THE HATE #WorldBreastfeedingWeek

8 August 2018



I had a different post planned for today, however, it being #WorldBreastfeedingWeek - I wanted to pen down my thoughts. This isn’t a guide to breastfeeding or a post about the benefits but just thoughts that I have found myself drowning in this past week. 

At first, I was quite reluctant to write and post this but if I can’t write how I feel on my blog then I don’t really think there’s any point in blogging so here I am waffling away - this is more of a rant than anything else.

The first week of August marks #WorldBreastfeedingWeek - this is is supposed to be a week to celebrate breastfeeding and to raise awareness for it. But what has it turned too? Debates after debates, women basically announcing to the world that they are each other’s worst enemy.

Why are the breastfeeding rates in this country ridiculously low? Not just because of lack of professional help because it is oh so easy to blame the professionals but it is the society in which we live in. The society who takes it upon themselves to become judges. And who is society? It is us! If we as mothers don’t support each other then how can we expect support from anyone else?

Unfortunately, this isn’t the case though..

All of a suddenly, we have a group of mums who formula feed go on a defensive - why? There is no need. 

And before you think about strangling me virtually, I want you to know that I combined fed my daughter for the first 11 months of her life. I have been at both sides of the coin, I know what it’s like to breastfeed, I know what it’s like to formula feed, just had to get that out there as I know I would have been labelled as being part of the ‘breastfeeding brigade’ - seriously, what’s that about?

When a woman shares how long she fed her child for, how proud she is of herself or might just mistakenly mention why she breastfeeds her child she gains an automatic membership of the breastfeeding brigade.

There is nothing wrong with a mother being proud of herself for breastfeeding and saying that out loud. It is not a dig at formula feeding mummy’s at all.


A little bit of background: 

Me and my daughter didn’t have the greatest of beginnings, despite my lack of mobility and crying in utter pain even if I moved an inch (nothing to do with breastfeeding) I wanted to exclusively breastfeed. 

By day 10 my daughter hadn’t regained her birth weight, she was 10g off. I was told she needed formula top ups, she gained back her weight and we attempted to exclusively breastfeed, again her weight stagnated and I was told she needs formula.

I don’t want to ramble on here for much as I have a whole dedicated post written about My Five Breastfeeding Mistakes but in a nutshell I was given the wrong advice, eventually her top ups turned into 3 bottles a day. 

This may not mean anything to anyone but it was a big deal for me - essentially, I was getting the message that I wasn’t good enough for my own daughter, again and again, I’d express my desire to exclusively breastfeed but it just wasn’t so. This not only effected my mental health as I had lost all confidence in myself but also my relationship with my loved ones around me who only had one thing to say ‘do what the health visitor says, she knows best’.

Despite the lack of support from all corners, I eventually stood my ground and took away the bottles at 11 months and just began to breastfeed at those times. I am now still breastfeeding my daughter at 18 months and plan to go on for as long as she’s happy. 

I proudly share my story because after everything that I have been through in this past, after our first year being clouded by nothing but feeding issues I finally have something to be happy about - when you hear a fellow mother praising herself, don’t think she’s a show off or think that she’s doing that make you feel bad, it might just be that she’s finally happy about herself or something?

I completely understand that many mothers who formula feed have been failed by services and actually wanted to breastfeed, I get that, despite my achievement today I still think about the past year and how ‘it should’ve been’ feeding wise and it does still make me angry.

But that does not mean I’m going to get annoyed at a fellow Mum for successfully  breastfeeding her child for however long.

And you know what?

Formula feeding mummies should be proud of themselves too because it’s bloody hard work! You have no idea (I lie, you probably do have an idea) how relieved I was to pack away the steriliser - I remember those of bottle washing really well. 

Heck, I didn’t even bother buying tubs of formula, just used premade and warmed that up to make it less work for myself. 

So if you chose to formula feed because you weren’t able to breastfeed or because you just wanted to in the first place then be proud of yourselves too.

The whole point of this rant is just basically a plea from me to PLEASE stop these petty arguments and digs at each other, whether you chose to breastfeed or formula feed - that is your choice, no one has the right to pass silly comments. 

We should be supportive of each other’s choices rather than make each other feel like rubbish.








July Favourites

3 August 2018



So I am finally posting this at the right time instead of towards the end of the month! Go me! So without further ado, here are some of the blogposts that caught my heart in the month of July.




Lucy never fails to impress me with her posts - always so relevant and to the point! As a mother of a toddler who no doubt is starting to have fun in testing my patience, I found this post very useful because Lucy outlines the way you can teach cause and effect and show your child that there will be consequences for their actions in a positive light.


This post really got to me simply because in this fast paced world which is also shared online - people seem to forget that what is shown on the internet may not always be the truth. Nothing is picture perfect and neither is parenting but there are some who are adamant on sharing that it is - but what is it really like? Would you lie? Do you?


Such a fun post to read! I never thought of doing this but I most certainly will be when Little A is older - showing her cartoons that I enjoyed as a child and see if they are a hit with her too.


I absolutely loved Louise’s honest post as I think she echoed each and every bloggers thoughts. Blogging is an amazing thing and filled with wonderful people but there is no doubt that there can be negativity within it too just like there are pros and cons for everything there are for blogging too, believe it or not.


Breastfeeding your child has has become a ‘dirty little secret’ I’m not going to go into more detail than that simply because I get so emotional and I’ll end up writing an essay here! But just want to say that this is a topic that has shaped my life. I’m so glad that I came across this post as it’s so very true.


Why is that everyone seems to make it their business to make a parent feel bad about whatever decision they make for their child? Amy has touched a sensitive yet really important topic and that is about the development of children when going to nursery at an early age compared to not being sent. It may seem like a controversial topic but then what isn’t when it comes to parenting?

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What have been your July Favourites?




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